“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.”Steve Maraboli
The mind is the most powerful tool we have in our arsenal. The brain, of course, is the center of our consciousness in the sense that it directs and controls every thought we have and every action we take. It’s a truly remarkable thing with its ability to imagine and create; but with the power of positivity comes the power of negativity. Anyone can attest to the fact that we are often our own saboteurs, our own worst critics. For whatever reason, it’s easier to fall victim to damaging mindsets than those conducive to growth and expansion. It’s simply a part of human nature.
Overcoming these mental blocks, however, is vital to the health and success of our personal and entrepreneurial ventures. We won’t get very far with a bad mindset, and the people along the way certainly won’t support us with a down-and-out attitude. Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on where one is in life), the mind can either make or break us. What most people don’t know or believe is that the way the scales tip is entirely within our control.
A bad mindset is simply one that is not conducive to growth, meaning a person becomes stagnant in their progress. It’s a mind full of self-doubt, self-loathing, and perhaps even apathy—some care too much while others don’t care enough. Each one of us has a unique perspective on life and consequently a unique set of skills we bring to the table. Speaking personally, I would not be where I am today if I allowed those negative thoughts to consume my life. I firmly believe that anyone can grab hold of the reigns in this game called life and steer themselves wherever they please. It’s all about believing in oneself and trusting in our abilities and skills.
Today, let’s discuss how to master your mindset for success. We will be looking at common scenarios and my suggested approach to remedy them; additionally, we will also discuss some general tips anyone can use to better their life through the power of intention.
#1: What are Mindsets?
First and foremost, we need to be on the same page when it comes to understanding what something as intangible as a state of mind actually is. A mindset is how we view ourselves and the world along with the attitudes we hold about each. In simple terms, it’s how we think. Oftentimes, those who have negative mindsets often tell me that their thought process is intrinsic in nature and unwilling to bend to change. However, that is certainly not true.
The brain, like any computer or network, is hardwired. There are literal connections between neurons that transmit signals, etc. The brain is no different than, say, a home internet network. When we think of the brain in simple terms, it’s easier to understand its more complex nuances. A network can, of course, be edited. There are “bad” networks, “good” networks, “slow” networks, etc. The truth is that these words are purely subjective. What concerns us most is the efficiency of these networks, how well (or not) they process information and how it’s presented.
Our brains can be rewired. Mindsets can be changed for the better or worse—it all depends on our intentions. I’m not suggesting that changing our perspective on life or how we react to/process events is easy—nothing worth doing is ever easy—but it certainly is rewarding. It takes a lot to stop a speeding train, and try as we might, it is impossible to change negative thinking overnight; it’s a process and a journey that pays off in the long run.
While I will admit that some people are naturally more adept at maintaining a positive mindset while others may have a more difficult time, it certainly doesn’t mean it’s impossible. I believe that everyone has their specific journey to take which will ultimately open up the world in ways never before imagined.
#2: Types of Mindsets
While there are realistically an innumerable amount of mindsets one can have, the majority can be broken down into two categories: positive and negative. Positivity and negativity, in this context, do not necessarily mean “good” or “bad,” but rather the idea that one gives (positivity) while the other takes (negativity). When we breakdown these concepts into purely objective terms, we can better understand how these concepts apply to us personally.
You see, to take away is not always a bad thing; sometimes things need to be changed or removed in order to grow. On the contrary, too much of something (even something good) can bog us down. When trying to grow, it is vital that we step back and take an objective look at our minds to determine what needs improvement (positivity) and what needs cleaning (negativity).
In terms of network marketing, mindset is everything. Throughout my journeys, I’ve met many people who count themselves out before ever trying or who talk the talk but don’t walk the walk. Neither extreme is very helpful in the long run because, after all, the point of networking is to create points of contact and expand one’s social circle.
#3: Changing Perspective
The first step of any journey is to decide to take it! It really is that simple; but, as with anything, change requires careful attention and perseverance to see results, and that’s often the hardest part. The easy part is thinking in terms of “should,” i.e. what one should do and how things should be. We need to get rid of that mindset and replace it with a more realistic one, such as how we can take those steps to make changes. When we think in terms of the present reality, of how things actually are in the present moment, we are better equipped to tackle whatever issues we’d like to resolve in our lives.
Upon coming to terms with reality, we need to decide what our course of action will be to remedy the situation. Here is where our creativity can really shine. At this point, it’s very easy to feel overwhelmed by our prospects and the work required to achieve them, but we must remember to tackle each issue as it comes to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
Always remember that you have no obligation to anyone but yourself. Get rid of the idea that success can only be defined the way others have defined it for you. In fact, the contrary is true. In the wise words of Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Our obligation is to ourselves, and as an entrepreneur, the very nature of my work relies solely on myself and my efforts.
Whether we’ve been criticized or challenged, it’s important to remember to not let the ideas of others bring us down. In fact, they should inspire us to work harder, to go against the grain, and to make a name for ourselves. To face adversity head-on is the only way to survive.
#4: Thoughts Lead to Actions
So now that we’ve decided to make a change, it’s time to actually begin changing our thought patterns through practice, repetition, and good, old-fashioned willpower. A funny word, willpower; it’s the perfect word to describe what happens when we have the will (the want, the desire, the need) to make a change. The will leads into the power to do so.
If we find ourselves slipping from our routine, doubting ourselves, or engaging in behavior that is negative, remember to consciously return the mind back into a positive space. Remind yourself that you are worth it, and that you have lots of things to contribute to the industry.
Networking is all about the social aspects of selling, and as social creatures, we must be able to trust our own skills! It’s not enough to trust and believe in others when we lack the insight to trust ourselves. It’s truly a profound conundrum of sorts in the sense that we are willing to be guided but not willing to guide ourselves. That is a fatal flaw, the final nail in the coffin of any pending plans.
The mindset of an entrepreneur is one of a can-do attitude, a go-getter who doesn’t take no for an answer, someone who knows their worth and accepts nothing less. The mind of the employee, however, is one that takes direction, serves, listens, and waits. Waiting will get us nowhere, fast. It’s time to take the wheel and steer in the right direction. Remember to think like an entrepreneur no matter where you are in your career!
#5: Exercise the Mind
Like everything else in the body, the mind must be exercised and used in order to function at peak performance. Unfortunately, the internal battles we have with ourselves are here to stay; however, it does get easier with time. Remember: it takes a lot of energy to stop a train, and if our minds are going x-amount of miles per hour, it’s going to take some time to slow down and regroup.
Do not let the difficulty discourage you. Remember to always take it one day at a time and remain present in the moment so that we may better steer our minds in the right direction. The mind tends to wander, and it’s this wandering that can get us in trouble. Come up with little mantras, fill your life with external motivation and reminders, etc. Surround yourself with what you want to attract, and so it shall be. Take each day as it comes, always keep the big picture in mind, and trust the steps you make towards them. It is a surefire way to success.
We have everything we need to succeed. The secret is knowing how to unlock our own potential and quell the incessant banter of negativity that keeps us from growing. It is my sincere belief that anyone, regardless of position in life, is capable of achieving the impossible.