When I look back on my life, I recall so many amazing relationships I have had with other humans… Positive and productive relationships.
But did these relationships just “fall into my lap” per say?
The answer to that question is a resounding no!
These relationships must be built and nurtured. I equate them to a place to live. The relationship starts as a tent. We add ingredients to make that relationship a cabin.
But we don’t stop there…
With more nurturing and positivity, that relationship becomes a small home. And we continue to build trust and care and when we again look upon that relationship, it has become a magnificent castle that no weapons of negativity can defeat.
All humans need positive and productive relationships in business, pleasure and in life altogether. But when we examine the world today, it seems so many relationships are built on negativity. And it saddens me. That is why I devoted a chapter in my book, Organic Networker to building positive relationships.
If you have the book, it is Chapter 6 starting on page 91. If you do not yet have Organic Networker, I would like to get a copy in the mail immediately for you. Just the cost of shipping and handling if you are in the U.S. Just click here and fill out the simple information so we can get Organic Networker in your hands.
Today, I want to build on the subject of building positive relationships even more. So here are 7 tips to help you erect some wonderful relationships.
“Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.” Anthony J. D’Angelo
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #1: Realize You Have Differences
It would be a boring world if we were all the same. We have differences and we have a choice to make; either we embrace and celebrate the differences or we have no relationship. But remember, each and every person you are trying to build a relationship with is going to have differences. Some you may have a hard time accepting, but if you want to develop a positive relationship, you are going to have to accept those differences as he/she will have to accept you as you are.
Be it cultural, religious, political or even how the person dresses, I suggest you try to learn more about why and it may be able to help you understand that difference and be able to accept it easier.
“On the road to success, there is always room to share appreciation and gratitude for other people’s successes. Feeling gratitude for other people raises our own vibration, while adding cement to the bricks we lay. Finding the best qualities in others allows us to build those qualities within ourselves. And when we focus on our personal growth with open hearts and minds, the speed with which we construct dramatically increases, because all the while, we are attracting more like energy and like-minded people into our lives to assist us.” Alaric Hutchinson
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #2: Be A Listener
I believe the design of the human body has much wisdom. We were given 2 ears and only 1 mouth. And I do believe we are to use those tools in proportion.
Listen twice as much as we speak.
People have a need to talk about themselves and the various things they have gone thru. And to build a lasting relationship, listening to that person intently is the right thing to do. Give them both ears and just hear what they have to say.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” Carl Jung
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #3: Give Them Some Of Your Time
Time is a precious commodity. And knowing you are a busy person, when the person you are building a relationship with needs you but is afraid to ask, knowing you are busy, be there for them. It will be just like handing that person a bar of gold.
And I must say that amazing things will happen when you donate time… You will gain time to get all your tasks completed. It is a natural law.
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” Henry Winkler
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #4: Carry A Smile
I have watched the angriest people melt just because the person they were angry with gave them a genuine smile. Smiles are contagious.
I know there are times it seems difficult to smile, but if you make yourself smile even in those times, you will watch the people around you grow warm and pleasing to be around.
Believe me, genuine smiles are positive and productive relationship building tools that you must use.
“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” Carl W. Buechner
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #5: Research The Prospective Relationship First
It only makes good sense to approach a positive person to build a relationship with. The way to know is to study and do research on that person first.
Now, I am not telling you to stalk them. Just get to know if they truly are positive and worth the time of building a relationship with.
“The business of business is relationships; the business of life is human connection.” Robin S. Sharma
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #6: Trust
No relationship is complete without trust. We must trust the person we are building the relationship with and they must also trust us.
The very first place to start in building trust is with honesty. Never lie or hide things from the person you are building a positive and productive relationship with. If you do, the positivity and productivity are gone…erased.
“Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.
The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled.
A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” Kaleel Jamison
Building Positive And Productive Relationships Tip #7: Have Empathy
This may be difficult, but you need to always be trying to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to understand how they are feeling and by doing so, you will know the right words and actions to help the person you are building the relationship with.
Too often, we are quick to offer our opinions without completely understanding what the person is feeling.
Take a few moments and try to understand completely what that person has going on inside and you will show yourself as a person they will want to have a deep relationship with.
“One of the challenges in networking is everybody thinks it’s making cold calls to strangers. Actually, it’s the people who already have strong trust relationships with you, who know you’re dedicated, smart, a team player, who can help you.” Reid Hoffman
Building relationships is the meaning of life.
But I know that the majority reading my blog are seeking inspiration for their business. So let me share a quote from my book to help you better understand why building positive relationships for your business success is so important and how your attitude comes into play:
“The right attitude always counts, whether you’re dealing in the business world or communicating with family members. We need to display a positive mindset, at all times, and encourage it in others. As a result, people will make two important shifts: they will change their negative thinking, and they will be more willing to accept your perspective about what it takes to build a business.” From Organic Networker
I really hope this post gives you some insight into why building positive and productive relationships is a key to your success.
I also know that Organic Networker will help you too. So be sure and order your copy today.
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We all need positive and productive relationships and I know that these tips can help.